Relationship Attachment Model

1.The relationship attachment model. This model consists of: know, trust, rely, commit, and touch. In order to have a good marriage, or a good relationship in general we should try to be equal in all these aspects. When you have too much of one, and not enough of another, then you are going to have problems in your relationship. 

Dating

The three P's of a date are, the date should be: 1. Planned, 2. Paid for, and 3. paired off. The church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints came out with a paper called "The Family: A Proclamation to the World."They describe the duties of a husband and/or a father as 1. preside, 2. Provide, 3. Protect. When a date your husband plans a date, it is his way of presiding over the date and kind of being in charge of it. When he pays for the date, it is him providing for you on your date and showing that he can and is willing to provide for you. When you are paired off, in a way he becomes more protective of you because you are "his" date.

The Importance of Models

1The importance of models (theories and assumptions). Our actions or beliefs should be based upon theories or assumptions. Theory (attempt to explain) affects you assumptions, which affects your conclusions (actions). This is the very true when it comes to same sex attraction. We talked about the different theories of born that way, or exotic becomes erotic. 

Effect of Social Class on Family

1The effect of social class on the family. Social class definitely impacts the family. Depending on your social class, it can put strains on the family. Your desire for a certain social class also has an affect on the family. If you want a higher social class you may spend more time working rather than wit your family. 

Boundaries

A diffused boundary is a boundary that hasn't been correctly established. A rigid boundary is a boundary that hasn't been correctly established. A rigid boundary is a boundary that completely separates the two people. A picket fence boundary indicates clear boundaries, but still some spaces. The best family relationships have a picket fence boundary around a husband and wife who are close together and then a another picket fence around them and their children.

Family Relations

Some of the things we talked about in my family relations class this week were:

Symbolic Interaction Theories: There are behavioral symbols. All behavior means something.
Exchange Theory: The idea that there's something owed. Check balance.
Family Systems Theory: The whole is greater than the sum of the parts. Families operate as systems. Family behavior is influence by unspoken homes.

Marital Intimacy

I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, also known as the mormons. I believe that sexual intimacy belongs only between a man and a woman who are lawfully bound as husband and wife. I absolutely one hundred percent believe that sex is something created by God to form life. I believe that it is so extremely sacred and should not be taken lightly. Now, that being said a big problem among the church that I have noticed is that because we are taught our whole lives to keep ourselves morally clean and chaste, when we get married, it can be really hard to adjust to sharing that with someone else. Many people, especially girls, feel unclean or dirty. I think we need to do a better job of teaching sexual realtions between a husband and a wife as something extremely sacred, but beautiful. Rather than teaching that it is bad or wrong.